Dear Maggie,
I'm a 21 year old girl having a big issue!
I'm seeing two guys at the moment and I don't know who to choose! I'm going to use fake names here ok?
But I met David a year ago, he's really nice, 26 has a great career and he's always so good to me. He brings me away to hotels, is really caring... just the nicest guy really. But about 3 months ago I met Mark. He's actually seeing someone at the moment too, but we have really fallen for eachother.
He makes me excited and we have so much fun together, he's the same age as David but he has a younger spirit. We had a drunken night a few months ago and we've just been hooked ever since!! We're always texting and secretly calling and we meet up when we can. He wants to leave his girlfriend, but he's been with her for four years and says he knows there is no real future with her but he can see one with me.
I keep trying to weigh out the pro's and con's between them. David seems great on paper, but he doesn't excite me and the sex is boring. But with Mark I'm constantly excited, I get butterflies when I'm around and it just feels right.
I know David seems great, and every girl wants a man like him... but I'm really drawn to Mark.
What should I do?
From:
Maggie Red Blog Reader
.........................................................................................................................................
Hey Maggie Red Blog Reader,
It sounds like you're in a bit of a messy situation there!
The one question you need to ask yourself is what you have with Mark love or lust? You say you're constantly excited...but is that because you're both sneaking around? Alot of the time affairs never manifest into real relationships because people realise their 'love' was based on a lie between your partners, and that your 'relationship' was never really there.
Think about it, if you're being secretive, sending texts, meeting up behind David's back, you can't tell if the relationship would ever work, right now you're not living real life... you're living a fantasy.
But, in saying that. You do seem like you're just settling with David and that's not good either. It has happened that the person you cheat with does become you're true love. The question is: is Mark definitely ready to leave his long-term girlfriend? He's been with her for 4 years remember... it's not so easy to walk away. And statistics show that most men will never leave their partner for the woman they're having an affair with.
What you need to do is figure out if what you have with Mark is real!! If you realise he is the one you truly want to be with then stop dragging David along and end it for good. If Mark ends his relationship then you can both have a proper go of it.
I hope it works out for you! And remember to go with your heart, this is your life, do what makes you happy!
Love Miss Maggie Red
xxxx
P.S
Leann Rimes and Eddie Cibrian have been heavily criticised by the press for having affairs in both their marriages with eachother.
The pair met on the set of a movie they were making and sneaked around for a few months. The two were caught red-handed and both left their spouses!!
But now they two are happier than ever, Eddie constantly saying how amazing Leann is and that he has no regrets. So you never know... you could be with the wrong person!
